Saturday, August 1, 2009

Of Course He's My Own.

Tom Davis has asked that 500 people blog or post on facebook about the movie Orphan. I am thrilled to participate for so many reasons. This is a careless movie with detrimental effects to the millions of children across the globe waiting for their forever families. More then that adoption has been an amazing experience and changed my life for the better.

"Warner Bros. new horror movie Orphan proclaims that it must be hard to love an adopted child as much as your own. Let me tell you about how an orphan changed my life..."

I get inquiries from perfect strangers about our family on a fairly regular basis. Most are not mean spirited and people are genuinely curious about our family and we welcome that. The one that gets me most are the people who ask why we adopted vs. having another one of our "own". My simple reply is that Silas IS my own. He was mine before we ever boarded that plane to Ethiopia, he was definitely mine when he jumped into my arms. He's MINE! He is treated with the same love and respect given to all of our children. God just saw fit to bring him into our family in a different way. A beautiful way.

A way that has changed our lives forever. A way that has enriched us as a family. A way that has challenged us to do more for others. A way that has given us a clearer picture of the love God has for us. A way that has opened our eyes to an amazing country that we love so deeply. A way that has given us a son we cherish, a brother that is adored. A way that I would challenge others to consider.

Silas has taught me more about myself then I ever thought a three year old boy could. He left all he knew and came into a family who was so anxious to love on him. He loved back even though we didn't expect him to. He loved us even when we didn't understand a word he was saying. He cried and let me comfort him. A stranger. He gave me hugs when I'm sure he was confused. Silas has blessed our family beyond words. His smile melts me. His laugh is contagious. His will challenges me. His wit surprises me. His life humbles me. Silas makes me a better mom, David a better Dad, Nichol, Skyler, and Olivia better siblings.

We are SO blessed to see a glimpse of Jesus through the miracle of adoption.

He's mine.

Join me in Defending the cause of the Orphan.
From Tom Davis' blog:
This is the opportunity to defend the cause of the orphan. But instead of cursing the darkness, lets put the truth on display.

Tom is challenging his readers and friends to write 500 positive blog posts about how an orphan has impacted and changed your life. Post this on your own blog so that when people search for the movie, they are flooded with positive messages about adoption and orphan care.

Just finish this sentence: "Warner Bros. new horror movie Orphan proclaims that it must be hard to love an adopted child as much as your own. Let me tell you about how an orphan changed my life..."

This is the heart of defending orphans. Help push back the darkness and deceit here by holding up as an example the powerful love that adoption and orphan care can unleash.

Here's how you can defend the orphan:
1. Write a "positive protest post" on you blog that references the movie, Orphan.
2. Focus on your orphan care or adoption story that is positive, redeeming, and full of love.
3. Link your post to
4. Send out an email, Facebook message, or tweet to get others to do the same thing on their blogs.


Unknown said...

I so understand the miracle of adoption, and how children don't always come to your life through your own birth canal, but through your heart. My son, Matt, is adopted. He is 25 now, a father, and it's very rare that I think about him being adopted...he's MINE! In fact, on many occasions, when he was little, and I'd take him to the doctor...they would start asking me family heath history questions, and I would answer each one, when half-way through the process, I would say, "Oh...but this isn't Matt's health history." I got a few dirty looks (messed up their form!) and a comment or two...but I honestly never thought about him being adopted, he was just my little boy! And when people would tell us, "Oh, he got his daddy's brown eyes and his mom's curls" I would agree, never feeling any need to "correct" anyone.

Loved your blog, and your acknowledge that God brought your youngest son into your life because he was meant for YOU!


Julie said...

This is so beautifully stated that I actually couldn't even see the words at the end because of all the tears! Always and forever your beautiful boy...

Lauren said...

Erica this was such a blessing... it is so true. Silas is YOURS because God gave him to YOUR family for a special purpose. Silas is such a sweetie!

I can't believe hollywood is doing that... how sad. Praying Praying praying for the orphans who may be affected and the minds of the people who will see the movie to be guarded from it's evil.

emily said...

Love this sister!

Anonymous said...

He is a DOLL and OF COURSE he is completely yours. Wonderful post in response to this horrible looking movie. My grandmother was adopted and many times people asked her if she ever wanted to meet her "real" parents. Her response was always "I have meet my 'real' parents. I see them everyday."

Thank you for the sweet comment. Very encouraging. I am going to talk to my doctor about inversion and also if she would think it risky trying to turn the baby. We'll see what she says! :)

~Together 2 Get Fit~ said...

Thank you for sharing your heart so beautifully! It brought tears to my eyes. I was adopted as an infant and now we are, Lord willing, adopting a sibling group from Ethiopia. I hope to know that other side of adoption, as you do. You have blessed my heart by your beautiful words. Your little Silas and family are blessed!!

Missy said...

That was perfect! Beautifully said!

Carla said...


Erin said...

You read my heart! :)