These three words are ones that we often hear in the adoption circle. They are also words that some struggle to hear. Including myself. I don't want a child to feel they were "rescued" or "saved" I certainly don't want or deserve any certain "gratitude" from my son for things such as this. He's my son just as my biological son is my son. Those words can indicate that the person "rescued" somehow owes the rescuer something. This also makes the adoptive parents appear as some sort of saints or on a mission to save the world somehow. That's certainly not my heart. That's not my husbands heart. However there is the looming reality of the NEED for families for children. How do you reconcile the two?
We can live in denial saying we're "building our family through adoption" which is all fine and good, some are doing that and its fantastic. However the question remains if there wasn't a NEED would you be adopting? No, you'd simply be taking someone else's children if there was no need. There has to be a reason and a need for adoption otherwise none of us would. With the orphan crisis currently going on in this world it warrants a response. Bottom line is there are 153 million orphans world wide. Whether that is single orphan, double orphan, or abandoned child the need for families is still there.
So how does all of this fit together?
Sometimes there is someone else who just wrote it better then I ever could. Today that is Kristen at Rage Against The Minivan. Kristen wrote this blog about orphans, adoption, and more she states so perfectly her personal stance on all of this. It happens to also be a view I share in regards to adoption and the terms rescue, save, and building a family. It really is a must read. Please go read it. Let me know what you think.